Hello fellow people on the journey of being real.

As I start my thought on the value of being a real person, I would like to say that I am not one real person.

What I mean by that is no one is one real person throughout their life. Think about it this way who I was as a person as a baby? Is that not a different person then when I was 5 years old, was that not a different person then when I was 10 years old, was that not a different person then when I was 15 years old, was that not a different person then when I was 20 years old, is that not a different person then I am now over 40 years old, and will that not be different when I am over 80 years old. Thus I think the secret of who I am is to realize that “I” am as a Real Person am on the journey of being real, rather then reached some place or thinking where I can finally say I have completely arrived and will never change.

To reference this farther I will give you a quote and a poem.

Quote: I now realize the wisest thing I have ever done was be kind, because eyes of hate will always find a victim whereas eyes of love will always find a friend.

Poem: “Just Be”

Wouldn’t it be nice to just be?

Compared to no one.

A prize all by yourself.

We would have the freedom to fly through life,

enjoyed for the wonderfully unique person we are.

Yet a true appraisal on life shows that it is just not that way.

Maybe it’s just the dumb people in life that won’t let that happen.

Maybe I could start a revolution of new thought, “Yes.”

I will start by seeing the beautiful wonders of difference all around me.

I will learn to love everyone for whom they are.

That’s all, But it’s a lot.

Don’t compare yourself with others,

Enjoy yourself.

And just be.

This poem is relative for me as one who strives to be a real person because I see that often even if unrealized people think and behave in patterns. expressed simply: What We Don’t Understand We Come to Fear. What We Fear We Learn to Hate. What We Hate We Seek to Destroy! Therefore, we who strive to be a real people should thus seek to care for others and love diversity in others or at least accept difference not simply hate people…

People on the journey of being real can be benefited with understanding proposed by Positive Psychology, which in contrast to standard Psychology, is a field of study focused on examining how ordinary people can become happier and more fulfilled. According to Christopher Peterson Ph.D. Positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes life most worth living. It is a call for psychological science and practice to be as concerned with strength as with weakness; as interested in building the best things in life as in repairing the worst; and as concerned with making the lives of normal people fulfilling as with healing pathology. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-good-life/200805/what-is-positive-psychology-and-what-is-it-not

The art of know your self, love your self, be your self

The art of knowing your self: this involves getting to the place of knowing one self they, which they must first understand why knowing ones self is important, as well as how to comprehend they don’t already know them self or that most people don’t know themselves even if they think they do.

The art of loving your self: this involves getting to the place of knowing one self they, which they must first understand why knowing ones self is important, as well as how to comprehend they don’t already know them self or that most people don’t know themselves even if they think they do. First one must think about what love looks like wouldn’t it be a growth producing or would it build self enlightenment and self truth? Do you feel I or any one can define your truth?

If someone defined truth for you would you really own it? Wouldn’t it make more sense instead for me to broaden your ability to see the question? First would you think a question like this of such a personal relevance has right answers? To start thinking on what love is would we look at are fallible behavior or some philosophical definition? If we look at are relations with others could we be convicted of loving? If we wish for a philosophical definition of love what realities does it hold in our real lives? Is love a feeling or a behavior? If we look at love as feeling what emotional substance does it stem from? If we look at love as behavior is it fixed in the behaviors of others?

The art of being your self: this involves getting to the place of being one self they, which they must first understand why knowing ones self is important, as well as how to comprehend they don’t already know them self or that most people don’t know themselves even if they think they do. Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. Being yourself is celebrating you, as an individual – learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are. Define yourself by your self: You can’t be yourself if you don’t know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Be YOU authentically: don’t put too much care about how other people perceive you including your parents or family. The fact is, it really doesn’t matter in the long run and lf love must be bought bartered for or molded to be received, is it a love worth having. It’s impossible to be yourself when you’re caught up in wondering “Do they like or accept me?” To be yourself, you’ve got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a lens to reference with not own as your own.

Don’t Hide: everyone is unique has quirks as well as imperfections; we are all at different stages in life. Be honest with yourself, but don’t be too hard on yourself; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others. Own who you are: if you’re always working to be someone you’re not, you’ll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you’re proud of the way you are! Nobody knows you better than you and that’s how it should be. You deserve to be your own best friend, so start trying to figure out how you can do that. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you? Believe in this idea and use that as your starting point.

And how we use this thinking to change how we interact with others is, Knowing society, Loving the Humanity of Society, and Being the Humanity in Society.

Being a “Real Person” is understanding “Power, Knowledge, and Kindness”

When I was young, I valued and longed for power as I developed I saw the power in knowledge and longed for development of intelligence.

Now that I have gained knowledge, I see with the value of wisdom and it is me that has developed for I understand that my greatest power is kindness.

This “Value-Awareness” gives rise to of wisdom that our greatest power is kindness.

The value of being a real person then is seeing the ethics involved, for when love is followed hate is not tolerated. Therefore, to me the world is value. We are not in this life alone, thus life has value. There is no way to only care and value me and not be affected by such a thoughtless action. I feel we are all fellow people on the journey of being real, lives are the value and what matters in life. As a champion of being real I also champion value in both myself and others, I not only care for others, I wish to inspire and be inspired  to become champions of value, who then care for people as well as go out and inspire others in the world to do the same.

All of us together as champions of value can make the world better even if only the world around us. On such goals we can create a place we all feel value.

The alternative “Value-Blindness” gives rise to sociopathic evil. (Leon Pomeroy, Ph.D.)

Nature and nurture organized our values around three dimensions (cognitive “mechanisms”) dedicated to values and valuations that give rise to behavioral “content” such as emotions, motivations, aesthetic values, political values, ethical values, moral values, etc. The distinction is one of deep axiological mechanisms vs. superficial axiological content. The underlying dimensions or mechanisms have technical names, but we’ll stick with intuitive, but slightly deceptive, descriptors like Feeler (F), Doer (D) and Thinker (T). With the brain’s help, they become the “building blocks” of behavior. Tapping into them allows the measurement of one’s General Capacity to Value, and one’s capacity to value in each of three core dimensions of value. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-good-and-evil/201306/new-psychology-revisited

My focus is in life as a real person is positive, validation geared towards achieving and assisting in a greater sense of wellbeing, connectedness and balance, motivated and directed rationale, and challenge reasoning to expand new thinking both in myself and others. As a real person, I value a universality of lovingness towards other beings and nature. My ethical approach is centered, infused, supports a caring and just understanding of needs and goals to achieve a new levels of balance, self-actualization, self-mastery, and self-freedom.

I have reached a place in my life where I value my own authenticity more than wining some kind of approval. I do enjoy being liked but will not change to have that happen. I know myself, love myself and live as myself as much as possible.

I try to be a truth teller and a seeker of knowledge and a person addicted to wisdom both for myself and from others. I wish to champion the mental freedom of disbelief in faith, superstitions, religions, and gods. I not only want to not be something false like a believer in superstitions, I wish to stand for something valued, so I strive to be one who is also thoughtful and caring of others trying if I can to protect, inspire or empower. If others like me great, if they don’t accept the real me that is their loss, but I will never regret being me the real person as much as I can in the moment.

 

John Amodeo PhD, MFT wrote three articles for Psychology Today that fit with the thinking I have addressed:

What It Really Means to Be Real, Two essential aspects of authenticity

Being Real Without Being Mean, Toward a Deeper Authenticity

How to Be Real Without Being Obnoxious, What it really means to be genuine