Atheist for Equality
I am not shy with what I think is right, especially about equality.
I have strong opinions when it comes to women’s equality, LGBTQIA equality, race equality, as well as class equality and it amazes me how many atheists are still not on the same page. What the hell is up with that? Here is one of my blog posts: Atheism and LGBTQI rights or support? And yeah, I am a feminist. I am not cool with the so called Men’s rights movement is mostly an anti feminism movement. Here is an article about: 5 Uncomfortable Truths Behind the Men’s Rights Movement. As a humanist and a secularist I also have a hard time getting how other that see value in such labels don’t hold equality as a must in any aware humanity; now I know many do but why not all? Also as a one who is found of socialist anarchism which I know almost all are supporters of equality as well as often feminist, maybe not in some specific feminist movement (though they may be anarcha-feminists), I too am in this anarcha-feminist line of thinking so for me and many others its about the no gods no masters and women should not be seen as equal, they are actually equal and should never been treated as less than equal. And just as we still have racism today we still have sexism. To me we all should see a reason to be feminist just as we all should see a reason to be for LGBTQIA equality, race equality, as well and yes to me, the so called Men’s rights makes even women feel ashamed to say they are a feminist (I am not saying everyone claiming feminism holds values I agree with but in life this is true with most groups or movements. I can’t stand that its just bullying, oppression nor discrimination and am pro-equality for all.
More about Feminism
To me saying I need to use the term humanism instead of the term feminism, is like when I say I am an atheist someone saying they are a skeptic or rationalist or that I need to use those terms instead of the term atheist. Sure, I am a rationalist, a methodological skeptic and an atheist too, it all has different and needed meanings. One can be all the above but one does not enplane the other and also be a feminist. To reference this further like when I say I am for LGBTQI rights, them saying they are a humanist and that should cover everything leaving no need to say anything more, like singling out LGBTQI rights. To me feminism and LGBTQI rights both fall under multiculturalism. To me after taking multiculturalism classes in collage for my degree in psychology it was like 15 to 20 people and it was all women and only three who were not and I was surprised that when I brought up feminism and issues of limited sexual binary thinking (homophobia, internalized homophobia, transphobia, genderqueerphobia and intersexphobia) I was attacked and challenged especially about feminism which some said was not even needed anymore. Likewise, they seemed to feel they were being multicultural just focusing on race. And one man the only person openly gay started to support me some but manly on homophobia, however, even he had not heard about genderqueer; though he was open to learn. What I started to think is one cannot truly be multicultural unless they are culturally multiple and even then we must realize we are often culturally encapsulated and thus bit only must listen and learn from others of other cultures or countercultures we must see we may even if unintentionally be culturally biased in our thinking or approach to multiculturalism in general.
Here are a few of my complimentary blog posts:
I was once asked: Damian where do you stand on a man’s rights to choose to be a parent?
I responded: I am not totally sure I get what you mean? Do you mean me can decide he wants an abortion and she wants the child? If that is what you are asking, no one has rights over the woman’s body but the woman. I would not support making her keep the baby nor should she be forced to abort the baby. I support father’s rights just as I support mother’s rights but not rights over another’s body. If the man became a father because he was a rapist, then fuck him he has no rights as a parent to me.
Questioner: no. I was referring to how we of the mentality of equality have become quite accepting of a woman’s rights to an abortion if she chooses to not be a parent at the time versus a man’s right to walk away without child support or ramifications of him being a horrible person. .our a dead beat. Do you feel that is fair and equal?
I responded: it’s two different things. One is her body the other is parental responsibility.
Questioner: yes, but she gets to choose weather or not she is ready for parental responsibility. He doesn’t get that choice. I’m not saying he should have any choice over her body. But how do you make that choice fair.
I responded: everyone owns their own body, so it’s not favoring anything it’s about self-rights why women are the only ones to decide. I would say the same if men got pregnant.
Questioner: But it’s not technically equal. .and there is no way to make it equal. Not without infringing on a woman’s right to decide what she does with her own body.
I responded: it is fair and equal everyone owns their own body. Nothing special is in play that is in fare.
Questioner: now think. If I have a fling with a girl. She doesn’t want an abortion. I’m cool. I won’t argue but what if I don’t want to be a parent? There is actually Damien. Many states will force that man to pay child support even though he doesn’t want to be a parent. Is that not forcing him to change his entire life? Work his BODY harder? go to school. .get more money? It changes everything he does. And sometimes against his will.
I responded: you don’t have to be a parent but you do have to support the child you created. Your “mistake” is going to bring responsibility for at least monetary care. Do not like the danger then take steps to be safe. Me I have an open marriage so I can have flings but I didn’t want a child so I got a vasectomy. Problem solved.
Questioner: then shouldn’t she have to if he wants the child? No. That would infringe on her rights. Therefore we return to unequal. Some things are just impossible to make equal, and yes I’m pro choice. Wouldn’t it be nice if I could be pro choice for everyone though?
I responded: they both have equal body ownership. They both have equal responsibility for any child. That means its equal, nothing special.
The men’s rights movement (MRM) is a part of the larger men’s movement. It branched off from the men’s liberation movement in the early 1970s. The men’s rights movement is made up of a variety of groups and individuals who are concerned with issues of male disadvantage, discrimination and oppression. The movement focuses on issues in numerous areas of society (including family law, parenting,reproduction, domestic violence) and government services (including education,compulsory military service, social safety nets, and health policies) which purportedly discriminate against men. Some scholars consider the men’s rights movement or parts of the movement to be a backlash to feminism. Men’s rights activists contest claims that men have greater power, privilege or advantage than women do and argue that the women’s movement has “gone too far” and harmed men, especially in areas related to child custody, child support, and in division of marital assets during divorce. Claims and activities associated with the men’s rights movement have been criticized by scholars, the Southern Poverty Law Center and commentators. Some sectors of the movement have been described as misogynistic. Ref