Empathy and Human Dignity?

My kindness is often taken as weakness. However, I am not even close to a weak person, I am hardcore as hell but see the wisdom of kindness. Due to my bad childhood and bad psychological luck, I can have empathy issues but I have overcome that a lot, now am quit caring. This transformation to kindness and compassion is possible as empathy can both be learned nurture/social/psychological thing as its a value perspective, not simply nature/biological as some think. 

We accumulate beliefs that we allow to negatively influence our lives often without realizing it. However, it is our willingness to alter skewed beliefs or assertions that impend balance, which brings about a new caring awareness. When love is followed hate of people is not tolerated. The first sign that one thinks they know it all even when they clearly don’t but instead are using bad belief etiquette is because they apparently stop looking for good answers and certainly have stopped asking good questions. Those who read only a few books think there is little to understand, but those who read lots of books see there is a lot to comprehend. The wrong door is open to anyone who tries, but the right door takes the key of understanding. A closed mind never wins a battle of free thought. You cannot generally reason with a mind already planning a comeback. In our lives, if we think of our self we may have to stand up for ourselves alone. The fixed mine of a person is never free, and the free mind is never fixed. The only fixed reality is the one we fix. The door of reason opens not once but many times. I must stay humble, remembering the strongest truth that I am responsible, for my thinking, behavior, and how I treat others. You cannot punch someone in the face with truth and expect them to listen. Rather it should be offered like a gift they can unwrap for themselves. We are not in this life alone what happens to the ones forgotten effects us all. Truth is often but a vantage point away from losing credibility.

Equality is a behavior it is in how we treat others, not in their state of being. Free is only free to give away you must first pay for it to then offer it as free to others who will most likely charge others for this gift you gave. I would never attack someone’s right to believe just the thinking found it that belief. We often can actually be confused in our assessment of others because we often tend to view people how we wish to see them in our stereotypes, basis and prejudice not how they actually are. I may not honor your values, but I do honor your right to choose them, though don’t forget we are all held accountable by them. Through love, respect, and care we can be a light to the world. Even if we who follow the rationalism of atheism, would never support the non-rationalism of hate, such as the discussing violence against persons simply just peacefully practicing, even a faith I do not support. Blind hate it just as appalling and disgusting to me as blind faith. When “Sorry” is an excuse it has lost its meaning as it is in many cases. Likewise, sorry is used as an absolution ware as once you even if begrudging say “sorry” you are not to be held responsible for negative actions. Sorry by itself is meaningless. I am most proud of myself when I act gentle as well as kind. Reading books does not give you a better perspective they offer you more choices to make your perspective from. I value the sanctity of “rights” of every person to self-define their beliefs and do not attack people because of what they believe. I say attack thinking not people.

Freedom is more than a state of mind it is a shared action. We are not the scars that made us, or the abuse that enslaved us; we are not the shame that drained us, we are not the intolerance that trained us, we are not the fear that betrayed us, or the dark narratives that started our lives of pain. We are who we choose to be now! We are the author of our future. It will be as full of hope, light, and love as we help it have. Like how a hard seed can turn into a tree, I too must move past the pain inside of me to welcome my new life with open arms and an open heart ready not to just receive but give love freely. It may take more than words because humans are hard-wired to a fight or flight response it is natural to wish thing away with words or stop talking altogether when our words fail us. We must strive for a real change that only comes when we act differently. We can all day long wish for more love in the world even ask for it, but it is in our actual loving freely and openly to all without checking if they fit in or are like us that things change. We see the humanity in animals when we move past the animal nature in us. Control hidden in the hope of yet more control is but the mischievous mind waving a lie in the believer’s face. A false hope of freedom by a different controller is just another nothing, a hidden delusion of choice, in such an offer you get no rights just more lies, getting the freedom to choose who is over you only gets you a different seat at the same old rat race. As such repeating a lie of hope doesn’t make it true. When you extinguish one belief for another, you still are deluded by another belief. I am humbly honored whenever I can touch the life of another in a positive way empowering them. I strive to live a clean, free, and self-empowered life. A gift that reflects that wounded soul in myself, and loves it enough to love again!

Money cannot buy a rainbow, warm summer breeze, or a song from a bird, not a feeling enlightenment so to it can give you nothing toward a connection to all life. I support women, I like hearing their voice, their connectedness, their humanism, their hope, their love, their care, and I so respect their wisdom I seek to learn from them be empowered by them for I realize they have so much to teach the WORLD.” I love sex with women but even if I never again had sex with women their value to me would not have diminished in the least. For their real worth to me has nothing to do with their sexuality it is instead their way of being, I hope to care and nurture the world as they often do so well. It is not me trying to be different it is me being true to myself regardless of how others feel. I haven’t been received well in my high value of women most women either view me with suspicion ignore my statements or like in my counseling classes in school actually argue with me or state how men are good too. And I get a few men that do both either view me as a sellout, have alternative motives or crazy or they offer some agreement but more that it is cool for me but not that they completely agree. But I do it for my truth in the first place, so I am ok that I am different often alone. When I say I like hearing their voice I mean I like women’s thinking, their ideas, their opinions, their hopes, dreams, feelings, etc. I am humbly honored whenever I can touch the life of another in a positive way empowering them. A gift that reflects that wounded spirit in myself, and loves it enough to love again! When I came to the end of the show, I realized it was yet a new beginning, a path but leads you to where another has already gone, but a journey into self is to go into a land untrodden and free from the constraints of others. I desire to be the protector of the defenseless, and anybody of whom society tries to tread on. I often feel like a man standing alone on a street corner holding a sign that says “the world is ending” when I express value for women. When I look back at my life, I see how I often spent such time removing myself from a connection to the world. I now see, I now understand, I was always a part of it. For we are a part of nature not separated or segregated from it. Society has to confront the criticism that any intelligent person could have figured out. Love, freedom, and care build more empowerment, justice, and unity then power, control, and hate. If how you value the world is by some monetary agreement maybe you should rethink what or how you define value. I see worth all around me and none of it I see having a price I can pay. I am against hate speech, and it’s like or death threats as well as unprovoked violence. I do think we can challenge, expose flaws of reasoning. I say attack thinking not people. I am against attacking people. I wish to support and if I can change their thinking if not value them as human almost no matter what unless they behave inhumanly like murder etc.

We are all one; I may think you could make better life choices but know it’s still your choice how to live that life. You have rights, and I did not give them to you and would never try to take them away or attack you for choosing even a religion which I hate. But I hate the religion lies and harm, not the believer who I see as a fellow human. Be free, think free, and help others see this freedom too. A quick explanation of Morality to me: 1) Morals: generally a private or personal subset of morality. 2) Ethics: generally a public or social subset of morality. Religion often claims ethics but more generally, use or have morals instead of ethics, so they wrongly use a private or personal morality that they then often try to push on the public. Thus Religion morals can be assumed as mainly pushing a pseudo-morality. Here is my quick explanation of how to be a “Good Person”: “do-no-harm” and “do-help.” In general, parents can install a lasting both for the child internally (towards self) and externally (towards others) this “Love”, often needs to be made up of three unconditional properties in equal measure: 1) Acceptance 2) Understanding & 3) Appreciation; Remove any one of the three and the triangle falls apart and love will not be true or lasting.

Damien, should government be enforcing morals and ethics? My response, societies, all of them even anarchist ones except for maybe some version of anarcho-primitivism, will hold an ethics even if it is as simple as the principle of non-aggression. Which is enforced if it is violated. It is enforcing a societal ethic expectation or a universal ethical standard, So, again we all love ethics in how others treat us, people only want it confused so much, when and if it requires them to apply ethics to others. But again this is a self-beneficial as theirs is a connection to good and well-being. Damien, what if you don’t like the ethics? My response, everyone loves ethics, “You” love ethics just like everyone does in relation to themselves “you” love ethics (you are happy for others to treat you ethically) maybe, you like many of us, can miss this ontology of social interaction which makes everyone love ethics, and how this fact is a not just a morality fact but also just a fact of our being a social animal we love ethics towards themselves so we just need the rationalism. Damien, not everyone agrees on what trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness (especially), caring and citizenship are. My response, citizenship is a property of being seen a connected part of the value to the larger group in a given society and with that is a general set of standards which is granted and expected, and a high standard application of this in universal ethical awareness and the moral reasoning that is used. I wish to champion this awareness and motivation that fortifies a better humanity which is found in the development and cultivation of moral reasoning. http://www.simplypsychology.org/kohlberg.html

Don’t let ANGER become an unethical behavior. Ontology, Epistemology, and Axiology are important thinking tools. Ontology strives to understand what is real and how that is expressed. Epistemology strives to understand what we know or not about what is real and how we know what is or is not how real things are expressed. Axiology strives to understand what is good, valued, or worth and alternatively what is bad, unvalued, or unworthy in what is real from what we know is real and how that value, good, or worth and how that bad, disvalue, or disworth is expressed. Dignity, in my thinking, involves/encompass a phenomenological/psychological-awareness/cognitive-realization and the emotional sensitivity of our sense of self or the emotional understanding about our sense of self. Why care? Well because we are cognitively advanced emotionally aware beings with fragile psychologies desperately needing of prosocial interactions with others. To me, we bloom in kindness and wither under unkindness, and we are prone to mental anguish from trauma that can list a lifetime.

We simply need people, and they need us. And because kindness is like chicken soup to the essence of who we are, by validating the safety needs of our dignity. As I see it now, how odd I find it to have prejudice or bigotry against other humans who are in fact previous fellow beings of dignity, we too often get blinded by the external packaging that holds a being of dignity internally. What we need to understand as well as acknowledge is how we should honor others who are fellow dignity beings and the realization of the value involved in that. As well as strive to understand how an attack to a person’s “human rights” is an attack to the value and worth of a dignity being. I am not really as worried about how I break the box you believe I need to fit as I am worried about the possibility of your confining hopes of hindering me with your limits, these life traps you have decided about and for me are as owning character attacks to my dignity’s needs which can be generalized as acceptance, understanding, and support. May my lips be sweetened with words of encouragement and compassion. May my Heart stay warm in the arms of kindness. May my life be an expression of love to the world. Dignity arises in our emotional awareness depending on cognition. Our dignity is involved when you feel connected feelings with people, animals, plants, places, things, and ideas. Our dignity is involved when we feel an emotional dignity bond  “my family”, “my pet”,  “my religion”, “my sport’s team” etc. Because of the core sensitivity of our dignity, we feel that when we connect, then we are also acknowledging, understanding, and supporting a perceived sense of dignity. Even if it’s not actually a dignity being in the case of plants, places, things, and ideas; and is rightly interacting with a dignity being in people and animals. We are trying to project “dignity developing motivation” towards them somewhere near equally even though human and animals don’t have the same morality weight to them. To further discuss my idea of *dignity developing motivation” can be seen in expressions like, I love you and I appreciate you. Or the behavior of living and appreciating.  However, this is only true between higher cognitive aware beings as dignity and awareness of

I am not really as worried about how I break the box you believe I need to fit as I am worried about the possibility of your confining hopes of hindering me with your limits, these life traps you have decided about and for me are as owning character attacks to my dignity’s needs which can be generalized as acceptance, understanding, and support. May my lips be sweetened with words of encouragement and compassion. May my Heart stay warm in the arms of kindness. May my life be an expression of love to the world. Dignity arises in our emotional awareness depending on cognition. Our dignity is involved when you feel connected feelings with people, animals, plants, places, things, and ideas. Our dignity is involved when we feel an emotional dignity bond  “my family”, “my pet”,  “my religion”, “my sport’s team” etc. Because of the core sensitivity of our dignity, we feel that when we connect, then we are also acknowledging, understanding, and supporting a perceived sense of dignity. Even if it’s not actually a dignity being in the case of plants, places, things, and ideas; and is rightly interacting with a dignity being in people and animals. We are trying to project “dignity developing motivation” towards them somewhere near equally even though human and animals don’t have the same morality weight to them. To further discuss my idea of *dignity developing motivation” can be seen in expressions like, I love you and I appreciate you. Or the behavior of living and appreciating.  However, this is only true between higher cognitive aware beings as dignity and awareness of

I am not really as worried about how I break the box you believe I need to fit as I am worried about the possibility of your confining hopes of hindering me with your limits, these life traps you have decided about and for me are as owning character attacks to my dignity’s needs which can be generalized as acceptance, understanding, and support. May my lips be sweetened with words of encouragement and compassion. May my Heart stay warm in the arms of kindness. May my life be an expression of love to the world. Dignity arises in our emotional awareness depending on cognition. Our dignity is involved when you feel connected feelings with people, animals, plants, places, things, and ideas. Our dignity is involved when we feel an emotional dignity bond  “my family”, “my pet”,  “my religion”, “my sport’s team” etc. Because of the core sensitivity of our dignity, we feel that when we connect, then we are also acknowledging, understanding, and supporting a perceived sense of dignity. Even if it’s not actually a dignity being in the case of plants, places, things, and ideas; and is rightly interacting with a dignity being in people and animals. We are trying to project “dignity developing motivation” towards them somewhere near equally even though human and animals don’t have the same morality weight to them. To further discuss my idea of *dignity developing motivation” can be seen in expressions like, I love you and I appreciate you. Or the behavior of living and appreciating.  However, this is only true between higher cognitive aware beings as dignity and awareness of

I am not really as worried about how I break the box you believe I need to fit as I am worried about the possibility of your confining hopes of hindering me with your limits, these life traps you have decided about and for me are as owning character attacks to my dignity’s needs which can be generalized as acceptance, understanding, and support. May my lips be sweetened with words of encouragement and compassion. May my Heart stay warm in the arms of kindness. May my life be an expression of love to the world. Dignity arises in our emotional awareness depending on cognition. Our dignity is involved when you feel connected feelings with people, animals, plants, places, things, and ideas. Our dignity is involved when we feel an emotional dignity bond  “my family”, “my pet”,  “my religion”, “my sport’s team” etc. Because of the core sensitivity of our dignity, we feel that when we connect, then we are also acknowledging, understanding, and supporting a perceived sense of dignity. Even if it’s not actually a dignity being in the case of plants, places, things, and ideas; and is rightly interacting with a dignity being in people and animals. We are trying to project “dignity developing motivation” towards them somewhere near equally even though human and animals don’t have the same morality weight to them. To further discuss my idea of *dignity developing motivation” can be seen in expressions like, I love you and I appreciate you. Or the behavior of living and appreciating.  However, this is only true between higher cognitive aware beings as dignity and awareness of selfness is directly related to dignity awareness. The higher the dignity awareness the higher the moral weight of the dignity in the beings dignity. Denial likes consistency, the pattern of thinking can not vary from a fixed standard of thinking, or the risk of truth could slip in. Dignity: “Containing Value, and Moral Weight” Dignity, to me, is the emotional sensitivity of our sense of self or the emotional understanding about our sense of self. To me, when we say it’s wrong to kill a human, that person is appealing to our need to value the dignity of the person.’ The person with whom may possibly be killed has a life essence with an attached value and moral weight variations. And moral weight,’ which is different depending on the value of the dignity being you are addressing understanding moral weight as a kind of liability, responsibility, or rights is actualized. So, it’s the dignity to which we are saying validates the right to life. But I believe all living things with cognitively aware have a dignity. As to me, dignity is the name I home to the emotional experience, emotional expression, emotional intelligence or sensitivity at the very core of our sense of self the more aware the hire that dignity value and thus worth.

Dignity is often shredded similar to my thinking: “Moral, ethical, legal, and political discussions use the concept of dignity to express the idea that a being has an innate right to be valued, respected, and to receive ethical treatment. In the modern context, dignity can function as an extension of the Enlightenment-era concepts of inherent, inalienable rights. English-speakers often use the word “dignity” in prescriptive and cautionary ways: for example in politics it can be used to critique the treatment of oppressed and vulnerable groups and peoples, but it has also been applied to cultures and sub-cultures, to religious beliefs and ideals, to animals used for food or research, and to plants. “Dignity” also has descriptive meanings pertaining to human worth. In general, the term has various functions and meanings depending on how the term is used and on the context.” https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dignity Moreover, to me, our dignity flourishes with acceptance, understanding, and support. Moreover, our dignity, in a sense, withers with rejection, misunderstanding, and opposition. Dignity thus in my thinking is the emotional sensitivity of our sense of self or the emotional understanding about our sense of self. Damien, so what do you think are the best ways to cultivate dignity? My response, dignity is not a fixed thing and it feels honored or honoring others as well as help self-helping and other-helping; like ones we love or those in need, just as our dignity is affected by the interactions with others. We can value our own dignity and we can and do grow this way, but as I see it because we are social animals, we can usually we cannot fully flourish with our dignity. Thus dignity is emotionally needy for other dignity beings that is why I surmise at least a partially why we feel empathy and compassion or emotional bonds even with animals is a dignity awareness and response. Like when we say “my pet” cat one is acknowledging our increased personal and emotional connecting. So, when we exchange in experiences with say a pet animal what we have done is we raise their dignity. To me, there is a confusion I see some make about the ontological nature of FREEDOM in relation to group status. They think it’s like being alone uninfringed by anything or anyone allowed to do anything. But how can you profess freedom, when you are alone and completely uninvolved with others when the freedom requested, is from the group, to begin with, whether or not one realizes it. So it is wrong to think that freedom is like being alone, rather a FREEDOM of this nature is found in the status of a group or in group dynamics where one individual still holds group sanctioned autonomy thus conceding some limit to one’s freedom rights where they interact with others freedoms (hopefully respecting each others dignity because they feel empathy as fellow dignity beings).

The Ethics of Character in arguments or debates 

I wish to not simply think one-sided but strive for truth even if I may be the one wrong. I also always strive to not let anger or frustration to become potential unkind or unethical behaviors:

*Don’t assume ask then strive to understand not just react

*Don’t see them as an enemy they are a fellow learner

*Don’t see it as win-lose it’s about teaching

*Utilize nice behavior

*Utilize nice language

*Utilize nice voice