Atheist in an Open Marriage Attends a Solo Polyamory Conference
Solo Poly: similar to polyamory but more open not adapting to even a multiple monogamy thinking that may be expressed by some claiming to be poly.
I attended the Solo Poly conference representing as an out Atheist as always. I generally felt welcomed so if your ad atheist thinking you must hide to be at a poly conference or at least I should say this Solo Poly conference. I thought the people involved worked hard at making all kinds of hard topics were addressed in a fun thoughtful yet very informative way. I was only allowed to record one speaker and as that is a big reason I attended to get some videos to demystify this lifestyle for my atheist friends I did not attend the second day. Here below is the one video I did get to record and lucky thing as it was a great talk I enjoyed by Kim TallBear, who according to Wikipedia is a Sisseton Wahpeton Oyate professor at the University of Alberta, specializing in racial politics in science.
Her Book: Native American DNA: Tribal Belonging and the False Promise of Genetic Science
https://www.amazon.com/Native-American-DNA-Belonging-Promise/dp/0816665869
Dr. Kim TallBear (kimtallbear.com/)
Associate Professor, Faculty of Native Studies, University of Alberta
CRC in Indigenous Peoples, Technoscience & Environment
Decolonial Sexualities #IndigenousSTS #TipiConfess
Enrolled Sisseton-Wahpeton Oyate. Descended from the Cheyenne & Arapaho Tribes of Oklahoma.
Genomic Articulations of Indigeneity – Dr. Kim TallBear
http://kimtallbear.com/pubs/genomic-articulations-of-indigeneity/
Damien Marie AtHope (axiological atheist)
I am an Axiological Atheist, with a Rationalist Persuasion, who Supports Anarcho-Humanism: https://damienmarieathope.com/2018/01/i-am-an-axiological-atheist-with-a-rationalist-persuasion-who-supports-anarcho-humanism/
Damien Marie AtHope: Axiological Atheist, Anti-theist, Anti-religionist, Secular Humanist. Rationalist, Writer, Artist, Poet, Philosopher, Advocate, Activist, with schooling in Psychology and Sociology as well as an Autodidact in Science, Archeology, Anthropology, and Philosophy. Damien Promotes Science, Realism, Axiology, Liberty, Justice, Ethics, Anarchism, Socialism, Progressivism, Liberalism, Philosophy, Psychology, Archaeology, and Anthropology; advocating for Sexual, Gender, Child, Secular, LGBTQIA+, Race, Class Rights, and Equality.
My Writer Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/DamienMarieAtHope/
Axiological Atheism can be thought to involve ethical/value theory reasoned and moral argument driven apatheism, ignosticism, atheism, anti-theism, anti-religionism, secularism, and humanism. Roughly understood axiological atheism = Strong Disbelief as well as Strong Secularism and Humanism.
Axiological Atheism Explained: https://damienmarieathope.com/2015/10/30/axiological-atheism-explained/
So what about me?
My Open relationship Info
I (Damien Marie AtHope) am the male half of a couple in a diad nested ethical nonmonogamy marriage. I am free to engage with women on my own (with my wife knowing) as well as if things workout with me, my wife may, if everyone is interested be open to a threesome or two.
My personality is ENTJ-A
I am a positive person and work to improve myself and others if I can. As I have schooling in psychology as well as I am an atheist/humanist writer. I am currently about to publish an atheist book called: “The Tree Of Lies and Its Hidden Roots, exposing the evolution of religion and removing the rationale of faith.”
My wife does not play or date on her own but I have had flings and dated women on my own. As well as we have had threesome occasionally with women. This lifestyle is not new to us and we have had an open relationship for many years now.
I am easy going with people and enjoy have fun and play well with others but remember it will almost always be about me, even if there is a threesome with my wife. So the main interaction will be with me as my wife is not as into playing with others like I am.
I am a nonbeliever (out atheist) so if religion is a big deal for you that may cause conflict. I do not care what you believe as long as you respect how I don’t believe. I am a caring ???? firebrand atheist as well as antireligionist.
My wife supports me getting my needs filled and will always be aware of what is going on, she is a part of me.
I like all races of women, am into different sizes from thick to arrange, preferring heights of around 5′ 3″ to 5′ 8″ and styles from casual or conservative to Goth. I tend to like equalitarian or me as more of the dominant. I never would be into being dominated.
I have nerve damage in my right foot so I tend to be somewhat mobility limited.
Feel free to ask anything. 🙂
Here is why my name is: “Damien Marie AtHope”
I legally changed my first before I was an atheist. Then I legally changed my f middle, and last name after I was an atheist.
I chose the first name Damien because it means one who tames, protects or subdues. Also, I have family from Hawaii and there was a priest Damien who had originally had the first name jozef translated in English as Joseph but changed it just like me. Father Damien or Saint Damien of Molokai (1840 – 1889), defied the Catholic church and spent his life caring for the ones people stopped caring for as they were doomed to die, he never stopped seeing them as people of value and I too wish to never stop seeing the value in people or of human life. Although I am not saying he was a saint he still pushed religion and I do realize we should always question believed historic accounts of people like Damien as they can involve biases of Europeans and Americans (religion bias, ethnocentrism, racism, and colonialism and imperialism), as such is “greatness” may be inflated as well as discount the real experiences or roles of the native residents on Molokaʻi. However, Mahatma Gandhi, the important political leader of India, said that Father Damien’s work had inspired his own social campaigns in India and Father Damien Day is celebrated statewide in Hawaii on April 15.
I chose Marie to honor my gender diversity, is that I am mildly intersexed and genderqueer in my mental gender persuasion and I outwardly present as male. This gender difference is not to be confused as in my sexuality I am heterosexual or with my gender actually termed gynosexual meaning I am only sexually into women (cis women) and thus not bisexual or gay. Another reason I chose Marie is my wife’s middle name is Marie so we are even more connected by our middle names.
I chose AtHope to mean “At” “Hope” a state of being I live in and I wish for others. Another reason I chose AtHope is I didn’t want my wife to have to give up her last name just to take my original last name as is traditional as we are not traditional. so instead we came up with AtHope as a last name put together, to honor our shared equal status union.
I think the secret of who I am is I am still becoming who I am, which is the ever thoughtful and caring humanistic me.
I am an Axiological Atheist, Antitheist, and Antireligionist:
Axiological Atheist, which roughly can be understood as a value theory or value science Atheist. Axiological to Atheist is meant to denote an atheistic rejection of the existence of gods or supreme beings in favor of a “higher absolute,” such as humanity, formal axiology, or naturalistic ethical principles. Axiological Atheism can be thought to involve ethical/value theory reasoned and moral argument driven atheism, anti-theism, anti-religionism, ignosticism, apatheism, secularism, and humanism.
Axiological reasoning as a form of atheism mindset favors humanity and care values permitting individuals to resolve moral problems without resorting to gODs or religions. One value of formal axiology and naturalistic ethical principles being humanistic is mutual care and responsibility.
In the absence of a supernatural caretaker, we know that the responsibility for improving this world rests where it always has – with the people who live, think, feel, and act in that world.
If you think, we may click?
Here are my blogs on non-monogamy/poly:
While hallucinogens are associated with shamanism, it is alcohol that is associated with paganism.
The Atheist-Humanist-Leftist Revolutionaries Shows in the prehistory series:
Show two: Pre-animism 300,000 years old and animism 100,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism”
Show tree: Totemism 50,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism”
Show four: Shamanism 30,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism”
Show five: Paganism 12,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism”
Show six: Emergence of hierarchy, sexism, slavery, and the new male god dominance: Paganism 7,000-5,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism” (Capitalism) (World War 0) Elite and their slaves!
Prehistory: related to “Anarchism and Socialism” the division of labor, power, rights, and recourses: VIDEO
Pre-animism 300,000 years old and animism 100,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism”: VIDEO
Totemism 50,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism”: VIDEO
Shamanism 30,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism”: VIDEO
Paganism 12,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism” (Pre-Capitalism): VIDEO
Paganism 7,000-5,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism” (Capitalism) (World War 0) Elite and their slaves: VIEDO
Paganism 5,000 years old: progressed organized religion and the state: related to “Anarchism and Socialism” (Kings and the Rise of the State): VIEDO
Paganism 4,000 years old: related to “Anarchism and Socialism” (First Moralistic gods, then the Origin time of Monotheism): VIEDO
I do not hate simply because I challenge and expose myths or lies any more than others being thought of as loving simply because of the protection and hiding from challenge their favored myths or lies.
The truth is best championed in the sunlight of challenge.
An archaeologist once said to me “Damien religion and culture are very different”
My response, So are you saying that was always that way, such as would you say Native Americans’ cultures are separate from their religions? And do you think it always was the way you believe?
I had said that religion was a cultural product. That is still how I see it and there are other archaeologists that think close to me as well. Gods too are the myths of cultures that did not understand science or the world around them, seeing magic/supernatural everywhere.
I personally think there is a goddess and not enough evidence to support a male god at Çatalhöyük but if there was both a male and female god and goddess then I know the kind of gods they were like Proto-Indo-European mythology.
This series idea was addressed in, Anarchist Teaching as Free Public Education or Free Education in the Public: VIDEO
Our 12 video series: Organized Oppression: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of power (9,000-4,000 years ago), is adapted from: The Complete and Concise History of the Sumerians and Early Bronze Age Mesopotamia (7000-2000 BC): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szFjxmY7jQA by “History with Cy“
Show #1: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power (Samarra, Halaf, Ubaid)
Show #2: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power
Show #3: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power (Uruk and the First Cities)
Show #4: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power (First Kings)
Show #5: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power (Early Dynastic Period)
Show #6: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power
Show #7: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power (Sargon and Akkadian Rule)
Show #9: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power (Gudea of Lagash and Utu-hegal)
Show #12: Mesopotamian State Force and the Politics of Power (Aftermath and Legacy of Sumer)
The “Atheist-Humanist-Leftist Revolutionaries”
Cory Johnston ☭ Ⓐ Atheist Leftist @Skepticallefty & I (Damien Marie AtHope) @AthopeMarie (my YouTube & related blog) are working jointly in atheist, antitheist, antireligionist, antifascist, anarchist, socialist, and humanist endeavors in our videos together, generally, every other Saturday.
Why Does Power Bring Responsibility?
Think, how often is it the powerless that start wars, oppress others, or commit genocide? So, I guess the question is to us all, to ask, how can power not carry responsibility in a humanity concept? I know I see the deep ethical responsibility that if there is power their must be a humanistic responsibility of ethical and empathic stewardship of that power. Will I be brave enough to be kind? Will I possess enough courage to be compassionate? Will my valor reach its height of empathy? I as everyone, earns our justified respect by our actions, that are good, ethical, just, protecting, and kind. Do I have enough self-respect to put my love for humanity’s flushing, over being brought down by some of its bad actors? May we all be the ones doing good actions in the world, to help human flourishing.
I create the world I want to live in, striving for flourishing. Which is not a place but a positive potential involvement and promotion; a life of humanist goal precision. To master oneself, also means mastering positive prosocial behaviors needed for human flourishing. I may have lost a god myth as an atheist, but I am happy to tell you, my friend, it is exactly because of that, leaving the mental terrorizer, god belief, that I truly regained my connected ethical as well as kind humanity.
Cory and I will talk about prehistory and theism, addressing the relevance to atheism, anarchism, and socialism.
At the same time as the rise of the male god, 7,000 years ago, there was also the very time there was the rise of violence, war, and clans to kingdoms, then empires, then states. It is all connected back to 7,000 years ago, and it moved across the world.
Cory Johnston: https://damienmarieathope.com/2021/04/cory-johnston-mind-of-a-skeptical-leftist/?v=32aec8db952d
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Damien Marie AtHope (“At Hope”) Axiological Atheist, Anti-theist, Anti-religionist, Secular Humanist. Rationalist, Writer, Artist, Poet, Philosopher, Advocate, Activist, Psychology, and Armchair Archaeology/Anthropology/Historian.
Damien is interested in: Freedom, Liberty, Justice, Equality, Ethics, Humanism, Science, Atheism, Antiteism, Antireligionism, Ignosticism, Left-Libertarianism, Anarchism, Socialism, Mutualism, Axiology, Metaphysics, LGBTQI, Philosophy, Advocacy, Activism, Mental Health, Psychology, Archaeology, Social Work, Sexual Rights, Marriage Rights, Woman’s Rights, Gender Rights, Child Rights, Secular Rights, Race Equality, Ageism/Disability Equality, Etc. And a far-leftist, “Anarcho-Humanist.”
I am not a good fit in the atheist movement that is mostly pro-capitalist, I am anti-capitalist. Mostly pro-skeptic, I am a rationalist not valuing skepticism. Mostly pro-agnostic, I am anti-agnostic. Mostly limited to anti-Abrahamic religions, I am an anti-religionist.
To me, the “male god” seems to have either emerged or become prominent around 7,000 years ago, whereas the now favored monotheism “male god” is more like 4,000 years ago or so. To me, the “female goddess” seems to have either emerged or become prominent around 11,000-10,000 years ago or so, losing the majority of its once prominence around 2,000 years ago due largely to the now favored monotheism “male god” that grow in prominence after 4,000 years ago or so.
My Thought on the Evolution of Gods?
Animal protector deities from old totems/spirit animal beliefs come first to me, 13,000/12,000 years ago, then women as deities 11,000/10,000 years ago, then male gods around 7,000/8,000 years ago. Moralistic gods around 5,000/4,000 years ago, and monotheistic gods around 4,000/3,000 years ago.
Damien Marie AtHope (Said as “At” “Hope”)/(Autodidact Polymath but not good at math):
Axiological Atheist, Anti-theist, Anti-religionist, Secular Humanist, Rationalist, Writer, Artist, Jeweler, Poet, “autodidact” Philosopher, schooled in Psychology, and “autodidact” Armchair Archaeology/Anthropology/Pre-Historian (Knowledgeable in the range of: 1 million to 5,000/4,000 years ago). I am an anarchist socialist politically. Reasons for or Types of Atheism
My Website, My Blog, & Short-writing or Quotes, My YouTube, Twitter: @AthopeMarie, and My Email: damien.marie.athope@gmail.com