Atheist in an Open Marriage Attends a Solo Polyamory Conference

Solo Poly: similar to polyamory but more open not adapting to even a multiple monogamy thinking that may be expressed by some claiming to be poly.

I attended the Solo Poly conference representing as an out Atheist as always. I generally felt welcomed so if your ad atheist thinking you must hide to be at a poly conference or at least I should say this Solo Poly conference. I thought the people involved worked hard at making all kinds of hard topics were addressed in a fun thoughtful yet very informative way. I was only allowed to record one speaker and as that is a big reason I attended to get some videos to demystify this lifestyle for my atheist friends I did not attend the second day. Here below is the one video I did get to record and lucky thing as it was a great talk I enjoyed by Kim TallBear, who according to Wikipedia is a Sisseton Wahpeton Oyate professor at the University of Alberta, specializing in racial politics in science.

Her Book: Native American DNA: Tribal Belonging and the False Promise of Genetic Science

Dr. Kim TallBear (
Associate Professor, Faculty of Native Studies, University of Alberta
CRC in Indigenous Peoples, Technoscience & Environment
Decolonial Sexualities #IndigenousSTS #TipiConfess
Enrolled Sisseton-Wahpeton Oyate. Descended from the Cheyenne & Arapaho Tribes of Oklahoma.

Genomic Articulations of Indigeneity – Dr. Kim TallBear

Damien Marie AtHope (axiological atheist)

I am an Axiological Atheist, with a Rationalist Persuasion, who Supports Anarcho-Humanism:

Damien Marie AtHope: Axiological Atheist, Anti-theist, Anti-religionist, Secular Humanist. Rationalist, Writer, Artist, Poet, Philosopher, Advocate, Activist, with schooling in Psychology and Sociology as well as an Autodidact in Science, Archeology, Anthropology, and Philosophy. Damien Promotes Science, Realism, Axiology, Liberty, Justice, Ethics, Anarchism, Socialism, Progressivism, Liberalism, Philosophy, Psychology, Archaeology, and Anthropology; advocating for Sexual, Gender, Child, Secular, LGBTQIA+, Race, Class Rights, and Equality.

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Axiological Atheism can be thought to involve ethical/value theory reasoned and moral argument driven apatheism, ignosticism, atheism, anti-theism, anti-religionism, secularism, and humanism. Roughly understood axiological atheism = Strong Disbelief as well as Strong Secularism and Humanism.

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So what about me?

My Open relationship Info

I (Damien Marie AtHope) am the male half of a couple in a diad nested ethical nonmonogamy marriage. I am free to engage with women on my own (with my wife knowing) as well as if things workout with me, my wife may, if everyone is interested be open to a threesome or two.

My personality is ENTJ-A

I am a positive person and work to improve myself and others if I can. As I have schooling in psychology as well as I am an atheist/humanist writer. I am currently about to publish an atheist book called: “The Tree Of Lies and Its Hidden Roots, exposing the evolution of religion and removing the rationale of faith.”

My wife does not play or date on her own but I have had flings and dated women on my own. As well as we have had threesome occasionally with women. This lifestyle is not new to us and we have had an open relationship for many years now.

I am easy going with people and enjoy have fun and play well with others but remember it will almost always be about me, even if there is a threesome with my wife. So the main interaction will be with me as my wife is not as into playing with others like I am.

I am a nonbeliever (out atheist) so if religion is a big deal for you that may cause conflict. I do not care what you believe as long as you respect how I don’t believe. I am a caring ???? firebrand atheist as well as antireligionist.

My wife supports me getting my needs filled and will always be aware of what is going on, she is a part of me.

I like all races of women, am into different sizes from thick to arrange, preferring heights of around 5′ 3″ to 5′ 8″ and styles from casual or conservative to Goth. I tend to like equalitarian or me as more of the dominant. I never would be into being dominated.

I have nerve damage in my right foot so I tend to be somewhat mobility limited.

Feel free to ask anything. 🙂

Here is why my name is: “Damien Marie AtHope”

I legally changed my first before I was an atheist. Then I legally changed my f middle, and last name after I was an atheist.

I chose the first name Damien because it means one who tames, protects or subdues. Also, I have family from Hawaii and there was a priest Damien who had originally had the first name jozef translated in English as Joseph but changed it just like me. Father Damien or Saint Damien of Molokai (1840 – 1889), defied the Catholic church and spent his life caring for the ones people stopped caring for as they were doomed to die, he never stopped seeing them as people of value and I too wish to never stop seeing the value in people or of human life. Although I am not saying he was a saint he still pushed religion and I do realize we should always question believed historic accounts of people like Damien as they can involve biases of Europeans and Americans (religion bias, ethnocentrism, racism, and colonialism and imperialism), as such is “greatness” may be inflated as well as discount the real experiences or roles of the native residents on Molokaʻi. However, Mahatma Gandhi, the important political leader of India, said that Father Damien’s work had inspired his own social campaigns in India and Father Damien Day is celebrated statewide in Hawaii on April 15.

I chose Marie to honor my gender diversity, is that I am mildly intersexed and genderqueer in my mental gender persuasion and I outwardly present as male. This gender difference is not to be confused as in my sexuality I am heterosexual or with my gender actually termed gynosexual meaning I am only sexually into women (cis women) and thus not bisexual or gay. Another reason I chose Marie is my wife’s middle name is Marie so we are even more connected by our middle names.

I chose AtHope to mean “At” “Hope” a state of being I live in and I wish for others. Another reason I chose AtHope is I didn’t want my wife to have to give up her last name just to take my original last name as is traditional as we are not traditional. so instead we came up with AtHope as a last name put together, to honor our shared equal status union.

I think the secret of who I am is I am still becoming who I am, which is the ever thoughtful and caring humanistic me.

I am an Axiological Atheist, Antitheist, and Antireligionist: 

Axiological Atheist, which roughly can be understood as a value theory or value science Atheist. Axiological to Atheist is meant to denote an atheistic rejection of the existence of gods or supreme beings in favor of a “higher absolute,” such as humanity, formal axiology, or naturalistic ethical principles. Axiological Atheism can be thought to involve ethical/value theory reasoned and moral argument driven atheism, anti-theism, anti-religionism, ignosticism, apatheism, secularism, and humanism.

Axiological reasoning as a form of atheism mindset favors humanity and care values permitting individuals to resolve moral problems without resorting to gODs or religions. One value of formal axiology and naturalistic ethical principles being humanistic is mutual care and responsibility.

In the absence of a supernatural caretaker, we know that the responsibility for improving this world rests where it always has – with the people who live, think, feel, and act in that world.

If you think, we may click? 

Here are my blogs on non-monogamy/poly:

Art by Damien Marie AtHope

Damien Marie AtHope (Said as “At” “Hope”)/(Autodidact Polymath but not good at math):

Axiological Atheist, Anti-theist, Anti-religionist, Secular Humanist, Rationalist, Writer, Artist, Jeweler, Poet, “autodidact” Philosopher, schooled in Psychology, and “autodidact” Armchair Archaeology/Anthropology/Pre-Historian (Knowledgeable in the range of: 1 million to 5,000/4,000 years ago). I am an anarchist socialist politically. Reasons for or Types of Atheism

My Website, My Blog, My (free accesses) Patreon, My (free accesses) Patreon Blog & Short-writing or Quotes  My YouTube, Twitter: @AthopeMarie, and My Email:

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